My Golden Year

“𝙁𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙞𝙣 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛. 𝙁𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙞𝙣 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙩𝙝 𝙤𝙛 𝙙𝙚𝙚𝙥 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜. 𝙁𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙞𝙣 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙥𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚, 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮.” – 𝐒.𝐌𝐜𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐭

Some years ago I learned that there was a thing called your “golden year” and at the time I was super excited that mine hadn’t come yet. At that point none of my other birthdays really mattered, I was waiting on my “golden year” and then it slowly approached. I was not at all excited because well, we’re in a pandemic. Maybe my “golden year” would just be any other birthday after all. 

The beginning of February was a struggle for me as some of you may know, but for some reason as it got closer to my birthday things began to shift. I had an epiphany that revealed why I struggle with consistency and that I long for approval and support. Shortly after that the importance of self care hit me like a ton of bricks. I began to plan my birthday: 

Doctors appointment

I honestly cannot tell you how long it has been since I have established care in my place of residence. Figured that at twenty eight I should have a consistent primary care physician and no longer desired to put it off. Your girl has also been contemplating transitioning to a vegan lifestyle and felt it important to get some blood work done before making the move. At this point my results have come back and besides a Vitamin D deficiency I am all good to go. So stay tuned for that journey. 

Dentist Appointment

Here’s a little secret. As a child, my brother swung a door open (he had an attitude with me about something and my mother made him come back and hold the door open for me) and it hit me in the mouth pushing my tooth into my gums, it was right in the front of my mouth too. My mother had to pull the tooth out and when the tooth grew back it didn’t grow in straight. Even though I always get compliments on my smile, this particular tooth made me hate my smile. In the name of self care I got it removed. Pictures coming soon…waiting on the stitches to fall out. 

Chiropractor Appointment

Hearing about the Chiropractor is one thing but actually going is another. There were so many thoughts going through my mind. I’ve seen one too many YouTube videos lol. It wasn’t like anything I thought of, it was a very comforting and calming experience. First things first, I was excited when my Chiropractor walked in and was a Black Woman I truly didn’t know how to act. During this initial appointment she did a verbal, visual, and physical assessment. After assessing she reviewed her findings with me in language that was easy to understand and informed me of how she can be of assistance to me and what I can expect. Then she recommended I get a muscle work massage and return twice a week for the next two weeks. Since the initial appointment I had my first adjustments and I loved it. I honestly can’t wait to go back tomorrow. 

Wax | Brazilian + Stomach

That shit hurt!! It was my very first wax and baby it was like nothing I could have imagined. My experience was absolutely amazing though. I visited Glo Med Spa and had Anna as my esthetician, if you are in the Richmond area I highly recommend her. She was very knowledgeable and informative. She did a wonderful job at making me feel comfortable and talked me through the whole thing. Anna did her very best to give me quality results with the least amount of pain as possible. I got home that night and felt so smooth, I mean as slick as a seal girl. The pain was worth it. I am definitely going back in three weeks. * It has been a whole week and I am just starting to feel hair growing under the skin.*

Mani/Pedi

It has been a minute since I’ve gotten my nails and toes done so I definitely had to hit up the nail salon. I do not have a regular nail tech or salon but would love to have one. If you know of any Black/Brown nail techs in the Richmond, VA area send their info my way. 

                          

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I woke up on the twenty eighth of February feeling like a new woman. #28onthe28th Not physically but mentally and spiritually. It wasn’t anything that I did or said. This shift has taught me that you truly have to respect your journey! Know that your path is unique to you and that there are so many different experiences that you have to go through to get to where you are supposed to be. Stay the course regardless of resistance and know that when you are ready everything will fall into alignment. Just be sure to take care of yourself so that you are able to maintain and nurture what the universe gives you. 

Thank you again for all the birthday wishes!! 

With love, 

If you have experienced a similar shift at some point in your life, please share your experience in the comments below.